Managing Child Behavior: Two Effective Approaches to Try
- Chris Theisen
- 12 minutes ago
- 2 min read
Disciplining a child without a plan is like making a fancy casserole with no recipe. Without a bit of insight (and a great deal of luck), each can leave a bad taste in your mouth! The good news? Creating a behavior management plan is far less complicated than it sounds, and it can make home life run remarkably smoother.
When children understand the rules, the expectations, and the consequences that follow, they’re better equipped to make positive choices. A solid discipline plan provides structure and reduces confusion—not just for kids, but for parents, too.
Two of the most reliable and easy-to-use tools for guiding behavior are behavior contracts and behavior charts. While they’re both great for setting expectations and reinforcing positive actions, each one works best for different age groups and situations.
📝 Behavior Contracts: Built for Clarity and Accountability
A behavior contract is exactly what it sounds like—a written agreement between parent and child that outlines what behavior is expected and what happens when those expectations are met or not met. Contracts work especially well with older children and teenagers who appreciate having their responsibilities and privileges clearly defined.
A strong behavior contract should:
Be fair to both parent and child
Use clear and simple language
Be realistic and enforceable
Be followed consistently and confidently
Behavior contracts encourage kids to take ownership of their decisions and help eliminate “gray areas” that often lead to arguments.
Behavior Charts: Perfect for Visual Learners and Younger Kids
A behavior chart takes a more visual approach. It lists expectations and tasks (like chores or daily routines) and provides a visible way for the child to track their success. Each time a goal is met, a mark—whether a sticker, checkmark, or smiley face—goes on the chart.
A well-designed behavior chart should:
Be placed somewhere easy to spot (fridge doors are perfect!)
Be colorful, fun, or personalized to keep kids interested
Communicate expectations clearly and briefly
Show the rewards that can be earned
Charts help young children connect their actions to outcomes and get excited about their progress.
Choosing the Right Tool for Your Child
Both behavior contracts and behavior charts can bring structure, consistency, and peace to your daily routines. In general:
Behavior charts work wonders with younger children
Behavior contracts are more effective with preteens and teens
Whichever tool you use, the key is consistency—and celebrating the wins along the way.
If you’re looking for ready-made behavior contracts, charts, and other helpful parenting tools, be sure to check out the links below:
